🍸 Saying “No” Without the Drama

Jan 22 / Costa Vic

Cutting Someone Off: Scripts That Actually Work

Cutting someone off is one of the hardest moments in alcohol and food service.
Not because you don’t know it needs to happen — but because of how fast things can escalate when it’s handled the wrong way.

Most confrontations don’t start with the decision to stop serving.
They start with how it’s said.

This isn’t about sounding robotic or quoting laws at guests. It’s about using calm, confident language that protects you, keeps the room steady, and avoids turning a smart call into a stressful situation.

🧠 First Rule: It’s Not a Debate

Once you’ve decided to stop service, the goal is not to convince the guest — it’s to close the interaction smoothly.

Guests don’t need:
  • A lecture
  • A diagnosis
  • A legal explanation

They need:
  • A clear boundary
  • A calm tone
  • A dignified exit from the moment

🧡 Confidence de-escalates faster than authority.

🗣️ Scripts That Work (Use What Feels Natural)

🍺 Script 1: The Simple Stop

“I’m going to pause alcohol service for now, but I’m happy to get you some water or food.”

Why it works:
  • Neutral language
  • No blame
  • Clear next step

🍸 Script 2: The Safety Angle

“I want to make sure you get home safely tonight, so I can’t serve another drink.”

Why it works:
  • Shifts focus to care, not control
  • Harder to argue with safety

🥤 Script 3: The Redirect

“I can’t do another drink, but I can grab you a soda or help close you out.”

Why it works:
  • Keeps hospitality alive
  • Redirects instead of rejects

đźš« Script 4: When They Push Back

“I understand, but my decision stays the same.”

Why it works:
  • Calm repetition
  • No escalation
  • No over-explaining

🧡 Over-explaining creates openings for arguments.

⚠️ What Not to Say (Even If It’s True)

Avoid phrases that invite confrontation:

❌ “You’re drunk.”
❌ “You’ve had too much.”
❌ “I’ll get in trouble.”
❌ “It’s the law.”

These statements feel accusatory or defensive — and that’s when voices rise.

🧠 Scenario: “They Seemed Fine a Minute Ago”

A guest was laughing, ordering rounds, and now suddenly you’re cutting them off. They’re confused. Maybe embarrassed.

This is where consistency and tone matter more than volume.

âś… Calm voice
âś… Short explanation
âś… Firm boundary

❌ Sarcasm
❌ Lecturing
❌ Public call-outs

Remember: people react more to how they’re treated than what they’re told.

🛡️ Why Training Makes This Easier (Even If You’ve Been Doing This a While)

Most experienced servers already do the right thing — they just don’t always realize why it works or how to back it up if questioned later.

That’s where structured training helps.

Not to change your style —
but to support it.

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Training helps you:

  • Recognize impairment earlier
  • Cut off service confidently
  • Use language that reduces conflict
  • Understand your role under Illinois Dram Shop responsibility

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🍺 Calm Words Keep Control

Cutting someone off isn’t about power — it’s about professionalism.

In a packed Friday night rush, a neighborhood dive, or a polished cocktail bar, the servers who stay calm, speak clearly, and set boundaries without ego are the ones who keep the room steady.

You don’t need perfect words.
You need clear ones.

Because when you can say “no” without tension, you protect:

  • Yourself
  • Your team
  • Your guests
  • Your job

And that’s good service — even when the answer isn’t another drink.